Boundaries: The Vital Edge

5.006 reviews
Location icon
240 Davis Rd, Gabriola Island, BC V0R 1X1, Canada
Date
September 11 - 14, 2025

About this Retreat

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Details of this retreat

Healthy boundaries are foundational to our well-being in all dimensions of our life – our physical, emotional, psychological, relational and our spiritual life.

Undefined, blurred boundaries lie at the root of tremendous unhappiness, for ourselves, others and the world around us.  Especially in the demanding times we are currently navigating, blurred boundaries compound our confusion, stress and frustration.

Clearly defined and skillfully expressed personal boundaries strengthen our capacity for living more compassionately, creatively, and with vitality in order to enjoy greater intimacy and clarity in our personal and work relationships.









This program is for people who want to:

Know, embrace and express who you really are with strength and confidence
Experience greater intimacy in relationship
Have more compassion for yourself and others
Become less intrusive and more aware of the boundaries of others
Liberate your self from the exhaustion of being driven by perfectionism
Free your self from the pressure of pleasing others or proving and justifying your self
Discover, speak, and stand forth with your own thoughts, feelings and choices
Be proactive and clear when creating new, healthy relationships, following experiences of abuse or violence in the past
Free yourself from the experience of being trapped by roles, rules and obligations
Gain a new perspective on allergies, chronic fatigue, depression and other symptoms

This dynamic three-day program combines teaching and experiential learning about discerning, defining and then effectively expressing your boundaries.   You will also learn about accountability and consequences for when an expressed boundary is not accepted or regarded.   For those who internalize boundary conflicts into an illness pattern, there will be an opportunity to explore and decipher the boundary being expressed through the symptom.
Edges arise any time self-images or beliefs are challenged.
How we deal with edges determines the quality and longevity of our relationships.  Staying present with whatever is arising, we discover an intrinsic equanimity and freedom, which allows us to access the natural state of open and effortless Being.  In this state we are able to more fully be with emotions, issues and thoughts without needing to avoid, exaggerate or minimize them.  Rashani

Investment:
Our Earlybird tuition price of $775 is available to those registered and paid in full one month prior to the program start.  Full tuition is $835.  Full payment is due one month before the program start date regardless of tuition price.

We are offering private and shared room options.

You can find our cancellation policy here
Schedule:

Breakfast 8:00 - 9:00am
Morning session 9:15am to noon
Lunch noon to 1:00pm
Afternoon session 3:00 - 6:00pm
Dinner 6:00 - 7:00pm
Evening session 7:30 - 9:30pm

Afternoon and evening sessions can vary.  Your program finishes with lunch on the last day

 

Admission requirements: The student must have the desire and ability to learn.  Must demonstrate a capacity for responsible self care, responsible self organization and sound mental health.  The student must understand and speak English.

This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training.  As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.

Getting Here

Location icon The Haven, 240 Davis Rd, Gabriola Island, BC V0R 1X1, Canada

Accommodation

Dorm bed (upper) - Participant

Accommodation
Thunderbird dormitory is our most economical option. Each dorm pod accommodates up to 6 people, and each pod has its own washroom. Bunks are adult built, single over single, with extra-long mattresses. Dorm pods are separated by gender. The Thunderbird dormitory is only available for participants registered in a catalogue program at The Haven. From July to mid-August, the dorms are reserved for our Youth Programs.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room. Read more about Thunderbird Dorms (PDF).

Dorm bed (lower) - Participant

Accommodation
Thunderbird dormitory is our most economical option. Each dorm pod accommodates up to 6 people, and each pod has its own washroom. Bunks are adult built, single over single, with extra-long mattresses. Dorm pods are separated by gender. The Thunderbird dormitory is only available for participants registered in a catalogue program at The Haven. From July to mid-August, the dorms are reserved for our Youth Programs.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room. Read more about Thunderbird Dorms (PDF).

Basic Room - Shared - Participant

Accommodation
These cozy rooms have 1 double or 2 single beds.  Some rooms have a small desk.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Basic Room - Private - Participant

Accommodation
These cozy rooms have 1 double or 2 single beds.  Some rooms have a small desk.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Forestview - Shared - Participant

Accommodation
These rooms look out to lush forest views and have 1 queen or 1 double in addition to 1 single bed.  Many rooms have a small fridge and desk.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Forestview - Private - Participant

Accommodation
These rooms look out to lush forest views and have 1 queen or 1 double in addition to 1 single bed.  Many rooms have a small fridge and desk.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Oceanview Room - Private - Participant

Accommodation
These rooms are spacious and bright with 1 queen and 1 double sofa bed and a stunning ocean view.  In room amenities include fridge, microwave, coffee maker and kettle.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Oceanview Suite - Private - Participant

Accommodation
These rooms are spacious and bright with 1 queen and 1 double sofa bed and a stunning ocean view.  In room amenities include fridge, microwave, coffee maker and kettle.  We have property wide complimentary WiFi, the signal varies from room to room.

Staying off-premise - Participant

Accommodation
This lodging type is used by guests staying off-premises, not staying at The Haven.

Customer Reviews

5.00 out of 5.0 average rating

5.0
2nd time
Experiential, universal, revelational about relational and self knowledge. Skilled experienced facilitators. Both times I’ve gone it has left me with deep connections in a short time and I continue to stay I. Touch with those co-participants. Food is hearty, delicious, and plentiful. Grounds are peaceful. I look forward to my next course and my next reunion with newfound friends.

5.0
TEENS ALIVE I, II & III
Our 15 year old son just completed Teens Alive (1-3) for the second time, and loved it. The environment is so nurturing and transformative - I really can't say enough about how grateful I am to have this program as a support during these years when parenting can be TOUGH. Our son is navigating high school with confidence, and making mature and thoughtful decisions - we definitely see him process his experiences in a new way and love what we are seeing. His communication with us is more open and productive, and we look forward to him navigating the rest of his teen years with his hands on the reigns. He is looking forward to next year's program and has plans to become an intern in the future as well.

5.0
Giving Voice
The Haven is beautifully set on the waterfront on Gabriola Island. I wasn't sure what to expect at this workshop. I was hoping I would find more confidence in using my voice as I have been confident in speaking in public but deathly afraid of singing in public! What I found was a very safe space to explore making all kinds of sound from humming and babble to overtone chanting and yes...singing. Leah was an excellent and gentle guide and the acoustics of our meeting space were amazing. I would recommend The Haven for anyone wanting to get away from their regular routine and explore their inner world. I will go back for more!

5.0
Imagine 2019
A wonderful opportunity to meet like minded people and to participate in goal setting activities for The |haven and for myself.

5.0
Journey to Self
Great Journey to the very centre of myself. I love all the Haven programs and this one was amazing, too.